Life updates, experiences, behind-the-scenes
I wrote this in my diary when I was 16.
For me, life is
The flowing river, the blowing wind, the sound of the rain, the laughter of a baby, the beautiful sunset, a cup of hot chocolate in the winters, the evenings of summer, the night sky covered with stars, the rainbow after the rain, the lovely mornings, the dreams you can die for, the music that can heal every wound and being yourself among the crowd.
-Kulsoom Abid
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I have never been comfortable with changes. I am someone who gets extremely attached to things, places and people. I don’t like when people leave or a book ends or when we move to a different place, it makes me feel sad. You can say I am bad at letting go which makes me overthink all the “ifs” and “buts”, and I eventually end up feeling upset and empty sometimes.
But what I have seen is every single change in my life has taken me to a better place. Every beautiful book that ended took me to another lovely story, every single friend I lost brought me to some amazing people and the list goes on.
Life is unpredictable but hope and acceptance are the most powerful weapons you can keep by your side. It’s like swimming into a flowing river that ends up meeting the ocean, you never know what’s inside the ocean, so you must enjoy every change every experience that the journey to the ocean gives you. Because we are what our experiences make us and of course change is inevitable. Things will keep on changing accept it, prepare yourself and never ever lose hope and your faith in God, because the best is yet to come.
-©Kulsoom Abid
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Giving up is like running away from your problems. People say give up if you can’t get what you want and try something else. But I say never give up.
Don’t listen to your brain because it will always reason with you. It will always make you doubt yourself with tons of “what if”, “but”, “maybe” etc.
Just ask your heart this simple question, “how much this matters to me? ” or you can try “how much do I love this? ”
It can be anything. It can be a person, it can be a hobby you want to pursue as a career, it can be any goal you want to achieve, it can be a dream you want to fulfil, it can literally be anything.
Your heart will give you the true and unbiased answer of what you really want to do. And if your heart says “it matters to me alot” or “I love it so much”. Then my dear friend I request you not to give up.
I won’t lie to you, it will be extremely difficult and there will be times when you will doubt your decision and sometimes you will think that people were right and you’ll consider giving up. And trust me at that time giving up will be the easiest and safest option. But please don’t.
We have one life. We live only once. And everything, every single thing we truly love is worth the hard work, is worth trying.
You will have to deal with millions of “maybe this is not the right time”, “maybe this is not the right place” and “what will people think about me”.
So here’s a friendly reminder, you are the one who is going to decide the right time and the right place. I do believe in God and I believe God always helps the people who help themselves. Write your own story, believe in your aim, in yourself and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
And “people” will say whatever they want to say. Trust me it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves. Everyone has to face critics in their journey. Use them as your motivation. Just remember that after quitting because of “what will people say/think about me” , one day when you will be regretting this whole decision making process and the outcome, those “people” will be nowhere to console you. All you will ever hear them say will be “ you shouldn’t have given up if you loved it so much”.
We are humans, we are hypocrites don’t listen to us. Listen to your inner voice and your heart. We will make you think you are a fool trying to fulfil your dreams but never listen to us. Because all we want is to pull you down to where we are and make you like ourselves, so do yourself a favour and don’t listen to us.
If you are a bird or a fish and you listen to a giraffe or a plant, then just imagine what you’ll end up doing. Or let’s see it this way, if you are birds and are of same breed but u have the ability to fly slightly higher than the others but you listen to them and hence fly at the same level as them. You are clearly doing injustice to yourself.
So I request you, don’t give up . We live once. Let’s spend it doing what makes us happy.
Think about it. Your view, reviews, suggestions and criticisms are most welcomed. Feel free to share it with someone you know needs this right now. Let’s tell each other that not all humans are bad and we can do good things too, we can support and motivate too.
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Today I’m going to open up to you all. While thinking about this post today, I felt how difficult it is to open up or talk to about something. We have this constant thing going on in our head that, “what if people don’t understand”, ” Should I even do this?? ” , “what if I get trolled”, etc.
Asking people to talk about their problems and experiences is easier than doing it. So I can’t ask you all to talk about such things until and unless I do it myself first.
So here I am.
There was a time in my life when things weren’t good. I had shifted to new school, I was not being able to adjust there, I wasn’t scoring well, I was being bullied, I was being called names, and last be not the least got backstabbed by friends, I thought I would have forever. And all these things were going on at the same time.
I hated my life. I hated school. I hated everyone and everything. And the worst part was I had no one to share all these things with. I had no one to talk and trust to. I was scared, lonely, unsure, fragile and depressed. I used to cry at nights and go back to “school” in the mornings.
And at a point things became so worse that I thought about killing myself. Yes I did. I was trying to look as if nothing bad has ever happened to me for the sake of my family. I didn’t want to see them hurt and suffer because of me. I thought if I will end myself, everything will become perfect again. My parents and my sibling will carry on with their lives and I’ll take all my problems and troubles with me.
But I loved my family too much to be unsure about it. So I just observed them one day, to see if they will really be happy after I’ll be gone. I realised, they won’t. I, as if for the first time, noticed how much they love me. Everything they talk or plan about includes me. I was heartbroken. And I thought I will tolerate all those things for them. I didn’t want to hurt them no matter what.
Few days passed, and I continued my routine. But one day I got so bullied in school that it was a last nail in the coffin for me. I tried to control my tears and did something I never thought I was capable of. I went to my class teacher and made her promise that whatever I’m going to tell her will stay between the two of us and won’t go to my parents or any other higher authorities.
I was taking a huge risk by telling her those things but I had to either ask for help or kill myself. And no matter what I was definitely not ready to give up and let those stupid people win. I was scared while talking to her but she told me she won’t be able to help me if I didn’t be honest with her. So I spoke everything like a trained parrot. I told her how I’m getting bullied and how I thought to end my life. And after, what seemed like eternity, I felt good. I felt relived that I finally spoke up.
We together decided to take one step at a time. Firstly I improved my grades and participated in the competitions and events. I strengthened my academic record first. And as soon as I started focusing on myself more than my problems, things automatically started to fall in place.
Due to the competitions, I became more confident and outspoken than I was. Eventually the bullying stopped. I made few new and true friends. Sometimes people used to call me names too but I was so satisfied with myself that it stopped bothering me. But whenever it did, I took stand for myself.
We often assume that success is all about managing our professional lives efficiently. But I don’t agree with this.
According to me, real success is managing both, your professional as well as your personal lives effectively.
Don’t take me wrong. I’m not saying being goal-oriented is a bad thing. But being ONLY goal-oriented and neglecting your family, true friends and loved ones in the process of achieving your dreams is certainly not an ideal thing to do.
I know sometimes this can be really difficult to do. But there is always a solution to every problem. And in this case, Time management and Discipline is the key.
There is no gain without pain. What is the use of being on the top of your career if you don’t have people who appreciate and love you for who you truly are and to celebrate your achievements with? Instead of those who will be with you only because of your position?
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In these two paragraphs, are the two most important things I have learnt from my family.
I hope I can help inspire others by this.
Everything will be alright one day, you just have to be positive.
Even when it’s the hardest thing to do. But relax, in this I’m with you too.
“Welcome to the Real World. It sucks. You’re gonna love it.” – Monica Geller (Courteney Cox), Friends.
When I was in class 12th, I read this line given below in my History book. These sentences were written by Abu Rayhan al–Biruni, an Iranian scholar and traveller.
This is what I learnt from it.
The answer to every question raised and the solution to every problem faced, is within the question itself or is somewhere near the problem. All we need to do is keep calm and try looking for it.
Sometimes we can’t find the things that are just in front of us. There can be only two reasons for that ; either we are in hurry and we don’t care to look properly, or we keep telling ourselves that the thing cannot be here and must be somewhere else, somewhere far from here.
Like I never knew I would come up for something to write about while reading my History book.
Conclusion is, all we should do is Observe calmly. Whatever else we require, will be found when the right time and right question comes.
Remember, self doubt will take you nowhere. I’m not asking you to be overconfident because that will also take you nowhere. I’m just asking you to trust yourself enough to know that you can do whatever you take charge of. And no matter how difficult the problem is, you will always find the solution if you trust yourself, observe the situation and stay calm.
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Hey people, I’m a book lover!
This is the first novel I read. The only thought in my mind was, “Novels are BORING!”… But this was my Christmas gift and I love my gifts no matter what. So there I was sitting in my room, opening the first page of this nicely coloured book. (Yes, I judged the book by it’s cover! But what do you expect from a 12year old?)
Unexpectedly I got lost in the stories. As the tales proceeded, I laughed when the author laughed, I felt sad when he did and I even shed tears when something went bad…Was I in love? Hell yes! I was in love with reading!
I just love how books, novels, poems and stories take me to a different world. A world that I never knew even existed.
And since than I have never stopped reading and it has become my very own guilty pleasure.
Tell me about the first novel you read or any guilty pleasure of yours in the comments.
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©K.@bid
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Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton
I have started this Blog because it’s good to talk to people and make new friends. It’s good to know that someone out there reads what you write, understand the things you are going through and help you overcome them. Words are not just a set of alphabets, they can be a source of inspiration, they can be a helping hand to someone in need.
No matter what, we all need friends. And the situation in which our world is right now, we all need each other. This blog is not just my blog, it’s OUR blog. Do comment, do speak up, share your experiences. You never know, maybe your words and experiences can be inspirational for many of us.
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