Love…let’s talk about this one thing everyone is so obsessed with. So what is “Love”? Just a chemical reaction in our bodies? Or an emotional roller coaster we deal with? Or just some overly beautiful thing we all want to happen to us? Whatever it is one thing is for sure, we all love the idea of “Love”, and the credit goes to Movies. Give them a sweet, romantic but tragic love story and people will madly fall for it, isn’t it? Sometimes I wonder when did the human race become so stupid. But who cares, right? We just love the “Love” that is presented to us. Every time it’s same but different in its own beautiful but weird ways.
But the real question is, does “Love” make us weak or strong? Well, I think both it’s just us who decide. It’s an energy and energy is neither created nor destroyed and we are the ones who give direction to it. It can either give us motivation or be a reason for our depression and sometimes it can be nothing, anything and everything all at once. Weird, right? But again, who cares? We all are in love with “Love”.
We are so desperate to be loved that we get ready to tolerate anything, any sort of misbehaving in the name of love. A person would be crushing our self-esteem or blaming us for his\her insecurities and just tell us that he\she loves us and The End. We will tolerate it all. Or if somehow you don’t, you will be expected to do it. You will be expected to go through all the miseries only because you love someone or you think the person loves you. Agree or don’t, believe it or not, but we all do it.
And I ask you Why?
Even if you are attached to that person or have feelings for them, at least ask yourself…“ Do I deserve this? Do I deserve this disrespect, this humiliation just because I love him\her? Does this person deserve me after what he\she is making me go through? Do I deserve distrust just because I had a past?”
The answer you’ll get will be the answer you needed and now the step you will take will be for your self-respect. If they call it your ego, let them do it. You know the reasons, you know you tried, you know what you have been through and that is enough. Not a single soul deserves the explanation.
Accept yourself, I know sometimes it’s difficult to accept your faults, shortcomings and flaws, but learn to accept yourself and learn to forgive yourself. Understand that you are just a human being and you can be imperfect because these imperfections are what make you truly beautiful.
The moon lights our path in the night but it has scars too, the sun that gives us warmth can burn us too, the ocean that sustains millions of lives have impurities too and it’s okay…trust me, it’s absolutely okay. The one who is made for you will love you for the imperfections too. He\she will accept you with all your shortcomings, will know the stories behind your fears and scars and will love you for who you truly are and will know how gorgeous you are even with your flaws. But first, you will need to fall in love with yourself. Because if you can’t, then no one can.
The day you’ll realise what I have written today, will be the day you will find your true love, and you will come to know that whatever you were looking for is present within you and always has been. You were just blinded by the expectations of people and yourself of how love is supposed to be and how you are supposed to be.
Trust me it will be better than what you imagined when it will be true because then you will be trusted, respected and taken care of in every single way you deserve. Till then just enjoy the process, love yourself and keep falling in love with the idea of “Love”.
Giving up is like running away from your problems. People say give up if you can’t get what you want and try something else. But I say never give up.
Don’t listen to your brain because it will always reason with you. It will always make you doubt yourself with tons of “what if”, “but”, “maybe” etc.
Just ask your heart this simple question, “how much this matters to me? ” or you can try “how much do I love this? ”
It can be anything. It can be a person, it can be a hobby you want to pursue as a career, it can be any goal you want to achieve, it can be a dream you want to fulfil, it can literally be anything.
Your heart will give you the true and unbiased answer of what you really want to do. And if your heart says “it matters to me alot” or “I love it so much”. Then my dear friend I request you not to give up.
I won’t lie to you, it will be extremely difficult and there will be times when you will doubt your decision and sometimes you will think that people were right and you’ll consider giving up. And trust me at that time giving up will be the easiest and safest option. But please don’t.
We have one life. We live only once. And everything, every single thing we truly love is worth the hard work, is worth trying.
You will have to deal with millions of “maybe this is not the right time”, “maybe this is not the right place” and “what will people think about me”.
So here’s a friendly reminder, you are the one who is going to decide the right time and the right place. I do believe in God and I believe God always helps the people who help themselves. Write your own story, believe in your aim, in yourself and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
And “people” will say whatever they want to say. Trust me it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves. Everyone has to face critics in their journey. Use them as your motivation. Just remember that after quitting because of “what will people say/think about me” , one day when you will be regretting this whole decision making process and the outcome, those “people” will be nowhere to console you. All you will ever hear them say will be “ you shouldn’t have given up if you loved it so much”.
We are humans, we are hypocrites don’t listen to us. Listen to your inner voice and your heart. We will make you think you are a fool trying to fulfil your dreams but never listen to us. Because all we want is to pull you down to where we are and make you like ourselves, so do yourself a favour and don’t listen to us.
If you are a bird or a fish and you listen to a giraffe or a plant, then just imagine what you’ll end up doing. Or let’s see it this way, if you are birds and are of same breed but u have the ability to fly slightly higher than the others but you listen to them and hence fly at the same level as them. You are clearly doing injustice to yourself.
So I request you, don’t give up . We live once. Let’s spend it doing what makes us happy.
Think about it. Your view, reviews, suggestions and criticisms are most welcomed. Feel free to share it with someone you know needs this right now. Let’s tell each other that not all humans are bad and we can do good things too, we can support and motivate too.
I was into my routine “late-night-overthinking” when I realized that sometimes I don’t understand why “Racism” is even a thing?
I mean it’s like saying white flowers are beautiful because they are white and purple or blue ones are ugly because they are purple or blue.
At the end of the day, they all are flowers. They all are beautiful. Imagine if the World had only white or yellow flowers… Now imagine the world with only red or purple or blue flowers…? There will be no variety in gardens and bouquets, everything will look the same.
Let’s look at it in this way.
When we make a painting, we colour it the way we want to, we use the colours we think will look good on the object and we go deep down into our creativity and imagination to come up with what we desire for. And when we are done, we don’t care what others think, we love our painting because it is ours it is purely our creativity.
Now, think of us (the people in the world) as paintings and think of God as an artist. He painted us this way, he painted the flowers this way because he wanted to. It’s his creativity and he loves us he is proud of us for the way we are. In the same way, we would have been of something we created.
Purple and white flowers look more beautiful together than separately, whether in the Garden (normal life, local places and society) or in the Bouquet (high ranking jobs, prestigious sectors and in the decision making bodies). Understand that. Because we won’t like the future generations to think we were stupid to not understand such simple things, because the world will always be a colourful place, whether you like it or not because the Creator likes it this way.
I would love to know your views, reviews and suggestions on the topic and my blog too. Feel free to comment below.
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton
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