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  • Feminism and Fake Feminism

    ©Kulsoom Abid

    Hey, you all already understood what we are going to talk about today. I feel being a girl myself it’s my moral responsibility to tell people the difference between Feminism and Fake Feminism. I have wanted to write about it for so long and now I’m finally doing it.

    Feminism started when the World began to understand the need for Gender Equality. So as far as I know, Feminism is all about social, cultural, economical, educational, political and personal equality of women. Which, in simple words mean that women can live and work wherever she wants, dress up however she desires, eat whatever she craves, choose any occupation she dreams of, study whatever subject she likes, etc.

    It’s basic, right?

    That’s how we (the society) define equality.

    If men can wear white jeans, a green shirt, a maroon belt, baby pink hat, eat a cheeseburger, study zoology and earn 25,000 per day then women can do it too.

    Now, what’s Fake Feminism?

    Well, I would define it as accessing your rights but disrespecting the right of others.

    Example: Wearing a neon pink shirt yourself and judging if a guy does the same, saying “ We are girls we can wear that, you are a guy you can’t.” 

    Excuse me? Really?

    Being a girl I strongly discourage such behaviour. Feminism was for “ equality ” if you don’t want to hear what you can and can not do then you have no right to tell someone else the same.

    Another example: If a guy opens up it’s not okay because he is a guy and if a girl opens up then it’s okay because she is a girl. And if a guy opposes this then they say “ Oh shut up, you don’t know what we go through we bleed every month, we carry a baby for nine months ” etc. And then you’ll go posting things about feminism.

    See, I respect that, okay, but we girls suffer all this doesn’t mean that boys don’t have problems to deal with or they have no right to open up. I’m not an Anti-feminist or a Pro-male-ist. What I’m trying to say is Feminism gives you equality, not the supreme power to oppress others or disrespect their rights.

    Being Feminist is not a bad thing, helping women achieve their dreams or gain self-respect, self-confidence is a commendable act. But if you support a girl to be a soldier, fighter pilot, architect etc then support a guy who wants to be a fashion designer, makeup artist and painter too. Equality is what matters, that’s where this started from.

    Please recognise the difference and kindly stop doing this, because it hurts me to watch that we are misusing the thing made for our benefit by using it against someone else.

    Humanity is above all. Equality is above all. People supporting and being empathetic to each other is above all. And if you don’t get it, then I have nothing to say to you.

    If you think I’m wrong then, please correct me. Your views, reviews and suggestions are most welcomed.

    Thank you for reading.

  • The Velveteen Rabbit

    I have been reading children books these days, it’s my “back-to-basics” method. Before the age of 12 I never really liked books so I haven’t read many which brought me here, reading stuff I should have read (10 years) before.

    I landed over a book called “The Velveteen Rabbit ”

    The Velveteen Rabbit is a British children’s book written by Margery Williams and illustrated by William Nicholson. It chronicles the story of a stuffed rabbit’s desire to become real through the love of his owner. The book was first published in 1922.

    Image Source: Google Books. Information Source: Wikipedia.

    and I read something I couldn’t keep myself from sharing. So in case, you haven’t read this book or you don’t have time to, I am sharing one of the most beautiful things I came across.

    Here it is.

    ‘Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’

    ‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.

    ‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’

    ‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’

    ‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.

    – The Velveteen Rabbit

    By Margery Williams Bianco

    I’m so in love with this book and I recommend this. So if you have time or you are stressed and need a book to just relax your mind, do try this one.

    Thank you for reading.

  • The Idea of “LOVE”

    By: ©Kulsoom Abid

    Love…let’s talk about this one thing everyone is so obsessed with. So what is “Love”? Just a chemical reaction in our bodies? Or an emotional roller coaster we deal with? Or just some overly beautiful thing we all want to happen to us? Whatever it is one thing is for sure, we all love the idea of “Love”, and the credit goes to Movies. Give them a sweet, romantic but tragic love story and people will madly fall for it, isn’t it? Sometimes I wonder when did the human race become so stupid. But who cares, right? We just love the “Love” that is presented to us. Every time it’s same but different in its own beautiful but weird ways.

    But the real question is, does “Love” make us weak or strong? Well, I think both it’s just us who decide. It’s an energy and energy is neither created nor destroyed and we are the ones who give direction to it. It can either give us motivation or be a reason for our depression and sometimes it can be nothing, anything and everything all at once. Weird, right? But again, who cares? We all are in love with “Love”.

    We are so desperate to be loved that we get ready to tolerate anything, any sort of misbehaving in the name of love. A person would be crushing our self-esteem or blaming us for his\her insecurities and just tell us that he\she loves us and The End. We will tolerate it all. Or if somehow you don’t, you will be expected to do it. You will be expected to go through all the miseries only because you love someone or you think the person loves you. Agree or don’t, believe it or not, but we all do it. 

    And I ask you Why?

    Even if you are attached to that person or have feelings for them, at least ask yourself…“ Do I deserve this? Do I deserve this disrespect, this humiliation just because I love him\her? Does this person deserve me after what he\she is making me go through? Do I deserve distrust just because I had a past?” 

    The answer you’ll get will be the answer you needed and now the step you will take will be for your self-respect. If they call it your ego, let them do it. You know the reasons, you know you tried, you know what you have been through and that is enough. Not a single soul deserves the explanation. 

    Accept yourself, I know sometimes it’s difficult to accept your faults, shortcomings and flaws, but learn to accept yourself and learn to forgive yourself. Understand that you are just a human being and you can be imperfect because these imperfections are what make you truly beautiful.

    The moon lights our path in the night but it has scars too, the sun that gives us warmth can burn us too, the ocean that sustains millions of lives have impurities too and it’s okay…trust me, it’s absolutely okay. The one who is made for you will love you for the imperfections too. He\she will accept you with all your shortcomings, will know the stories behind your fears and scars and will love you for who you truly are and will know how gorgeous you are even with your flaws. But first, you will need to fall in love with yourself. Because if you can’t, then no one can. 

    The day you’ll realise what I have written today, will be the day you will find your true love, and you will come to know that whatever you were looking for is present within you and always has been. You were just blinded by the expectations of people and yourself of how love is supposed to be and how you are supposed to be.

    Trust me it will be better than what you imagined when it will be true because then you will be trusted, respected and taken care of in every single way you deserve.  Till then just enjoy the process, love yourself and keep falling in love with the idea of “Love”.

    Thank you for reading.

  • The Door

    The Door

    They say close the door when someone leaves,
    “ it’s easy”, is that what you believe?
    How can you close the door,
    When you hope the person will return?
    How can you close the door,
    When you are scared you’ll lose your turn?
    The door to my heart will never be closed for you my love,
    There are wall too, the ones I wish you cloud climb above.
    Maybe I should let go of all the hopes,
    But my heart will never let me close the doors.
    Even after years of your departure,
    The door will still be wide open,
    As my heart will forever await your arrival.
    I’m waiting for you,
    Standing near the door,
    I hope you will come soon,
    At least before I’m no more.

    – ©Kulsoom Abid

    Here’s another poem by me, I hope you all will like it. Your views, reviews and suggestions are most welcomed. Feel free to comment and below.

    Thank you for reading.

  • तस्वीर

    Hello everyone, I was just wondering I never posted anything in Hindi. So here’s a poem by me in Hindi.

    तस्वीर

    बस एक तेरी तस्वीर ही है अब मेरे पास, वरना बचा क्या है?
    रिश्ता ज़िंदा है आज भी मेरे दिल में,
    वरना निभाने की वजह क्या है?
    माना नाराज़ थे हम,
    पर खफा तुम भी तो थे…
    मेरी बेरुखी की वजह तुम भी तो थे|
    “प्यार है तुमसे, लौट आओ”, कहा था हमने
    “नहीं, चले जाओ”, अलफ़ाज़ तुम्हारे ही तो थे|
    मेरे दिल में हो तुम, इसलिए इन कविताओं में हो…
    ये कवितायेँ, ये एहसास, ये प्यार ही तो है
    वरना बचा क्या है?
    एक तेरी तस्वीर से इश्क़ निभाने की
    वरना वजह क्या है?

    – ©Kulsoom Abid

    Your views are reviews are most welcomed, feel free yo comment below.

    Thank you for reading.

  • Giving Up

    Photographer : ©Kulsoom Abid

    Giving up is like running away from your problems. People say give up if you can’t get what you want and try something else. But I say never give up.

    Don’t listen to your brain because it will always reason with you. It will always make you doubt yourself with tons of “what if”, “but”, “maybe” etc.

    Just ask your heart this simple question, “how much this matters to me? ” or you can try “how much do I love this? ”

    It can be anything. It can be a person, it can be a hobby you want to pursue as a career, it can be any goal you want to achieve, it can be a dream you want to fulfil, it can literally be anything.

    Your heart will give you the true and unbiased answer of what you really want to do. And if your heart says “it matters to me alot” or “I love it so much”. Then my dear friend I request you not to give up.

    I won’t lie to you, it will be extremely difficult and there will be times when you will doubt your decision and sometimes you will think that people were right and you’ll consider giving up. And trust me at that time giving up will be the easiest and safest option. But please don’t.

    We have one life. We live only once. And everything, every single thing we truly love is worth the hard work, is worth trying.

    You will have to deal with millions of “maybe this is not the right time”, “maybe this is not the right place” and “what will people think about me”.

    So here’s a friendly reminder, you are the one who is going to decide the right time and the right place. I do believe in God and I believe God always helps the people who help themselves. Write your own story, believe in your aim, in yourself and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

    And “people” will say whatever they want to say. Trust me it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves. Everyone has to face critics in their journey. Use them as your motivation. Just remember that after quitting because of “what will people say/think about me” , one day when you will be regretting this whole decision making process and the outcome, those “people” will be nowhere to console you. All you will ever hear them say will be “ you shouldn’t have given up if you loved it so much”.

    We are humans, we are hypocrites don’t listen to us. Listen to your inner voice and your heart. We will make you think you are a fool trying to fulfil your dreams but never listen to us. Because all we want is to pull you down to where we are and make you like ourselves, so do yourself a favour and don’t listen to us.

    If you are a bird or a fish and you listen to a giraffe or a plant, then just imagine what you’ll end up doing. Or let’s see it this way, if you are birds and are of same breed but u have the ability to fly slightly higher than the others but you listen to them and hence fly at the same level as them. You are clearly doing injustice to yourself.

    So I request you, don’t give up . We live once. Let’s spend it doing what makes us happy.

    Think about it. Your view, reviews, suggestions and criticisms are most welcomed. Feel free to share it with someone you know needs this right now. Let’s tell each other that not all humans are bad and we can do good things too, we can support and motivate too.

    Thank you for reading.

  • I Write…

    Picture by: @_miss_abid_ Instagram page

    I write when I’m upset,

    I write when I’m broken.

    I write when I have nowhere else to go.

    I write when that’s the only thing I want to do.

    I write when I have to one to talk to,

    I write when my soul asks me to.

    I write when I’m happy.

    I write when words pull me towards them,

    I write when my thoughts make me overwhelmed.

    I write when my pen wants to dance,

    I write when my feelings are the song.

    I write when my soul wants to fly high in the sky,

    I write when my words begin to cry.

    I write when my heart wants to dive deep into the sea,

    I write when I want to show what I see.

    I write when the paper pleads,

    I write when my pen wants to bleed.

    I write for the pain that’s biting,

    I write for the sake of writing.

    -©Kulsoom Abid

    This was an original by me. I hope you like it. Your views and reviews are most welcomed. Feel free to comment below.

    Thank you for reading.

  • Why is Racism even a Thing?

    ©Kulsoom Abid

    I was into my routine “late-night-overthinking” when I realized that sometimes I don’t understand why “Racism” is even a thing?


    I mean it’s like saying white flowers are beautiful because they are white and purple or blue ones are ugly because they are purple or blue.


    At the end of the day, they all are flowers. They all are beautiful.
    Imagine if the World had only white or yellow flowers… Now imagine the world with only red or purple or blue flowers…?
    There will be no variety in gardens and bouquets, everything will look the same.

    Let’s look at it in this way.

    When we make a painting, we colour it the way we want to, we use the colours we think will look good on the object and we go deep down into our creativity and imagination to come up with what we desire for. And when we are done, we don’t care what others think, we love our painting because it is ours it is purely our creativity.

    Now, think of us (the people in the world) as paintings and think of God as an artist. He painted us this way, he painted the flowers this way because he wanted to. It’s his creativity and he loves us he is proud of us for the way we are. In the same way, we would have been of something we created.

    Purple and white flowers look more beautiful together than separately, whether in the Garden (normal life, local places and society) or in the Bouquet (high ranking jobs, prestigious sectors and in the decision making bodies). Understand that. Because we won’t like the future generations to think we were stupid to not understand such simple things, because the world will always be a colourful place, whether you like it or not because the Creator likes it this way.

    I would love to know your views, reviews and suggestions on the topic and my blog too. Feel free to comment below.

    Thank you for reading.

  • What Makes Your Country Really Happy?

    An original by: ©Kulsoom Abid

    Hey everybody, I know I haven’t posted in a while but there is something I want to talk about. Let’s think about the question in the heading. What makes your country really happy?

    Country is made by it’s people and we are the people, so tell me, do we like hate speeches? Do we like discrimination? Do we like racism, casteism and sexism? Do we like how people spread hate messages about a particular religion? Do we like the conflict between religions? Do we like civil wars and mass murders and mob lynchings?

    I don’t know about you but I don’t like any of this. I’m an Indian, and I’m proud of my religion, I’m proud of my country and I love my culture. And I’m hundred percent sure that each and every one of you feel the same way.

    We are a secular nation and growing up I have always read about how we Indians, despite being of different religions and castes, have lived together with harmony and brotherhood for centuries.

    The thing is, I received a post today in which there was a Mughal Painting depicting how the Mughal ruler Aurangzeb had demolished the ” Krishan janmabhoomi ” Temple in Mathura.

    Here are few pictures of the post and the comments below. Just read them and tell me how you feel about it.

    Source : @im_sanatani
    Instagram Page

    So how do you feel now? Now please tell me was this a kind of message to be spead among today’s youth? Such infuriating forwards release Epinephrine (C9H13NO3) also known as Adrenaline in the body. This chemical makes us feel angry or we can say “boil our blood”.

    And we all know what impact these things can leave on the mind of others. I’m so heartbroken to see that educated people forward such posts and do not report it.

    On the 2nd page of this blog I’m sharing few links, please go there and have a look at few stories that show the secularism, brotherhood and harmony in our country. I really appreciate those web pages to write such stories.

    I’m not defending Aurangzeb or any other ruler. But the fact is, in history every ruler that came to India build multiple religious worship places according to his religious beliefs as they never knew they were going to be defeated by some other ruler and will have to leave the place. Even as I have read on a website even the hindi rulers of Vijayanagara empire have demolished the mosques. So what should we do now? Go and destroy everything? The world will be a blind place if we go by the rule of “an eye for an eye”.

    We can’t change the past, and I understand the past wasn’t so good, but tell me, is it right to let go of whatsoever good things we have right now? Is it right to fight your Muslim friends because many centuries a go some stupid ruler demolished a temple? Or is it right to fight with your Hindu friends because of the same reason?

    Please I request you all, I understand that making people fall for negative things is much easier than making them aware of the positive side, but please don’t spread such things please don’t spread hate.

    Humanity is the biggest religion. Please don’t forget the “sharing is caring” and “a friend in need is a friend indeed” lessons we learnt as children.

    Humanity, secularism, brotherhood, peace, and love makes our country happy. Moral values make our country happy. Togetherness makes our country happy.

    Please let me know what you think about it in the comments below. Your view, reviews, suggestions etc are most welcomed.

    I hope you people understand what I’m trying to say.

    Thank you for reading.

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  • The Moon Looks Like


    Photograph by : @_miss_abid_ Instagram Page

    “The moon looks like a dear friend,
    A far but a near friend,
    Keeping me company, till the darkness end.


    Listening to my tears, fears, sorrow and befall,
    Until I have said it all.


    Until I crawl under the moonlight and fall asleep,
    Moon helps me count the sheeps.


    She hide my scars and make me look beautiful in her light,
    Assuring me, everything will be alright.


    She fills my heart with hope and strength to fight,
    And if things won’t work out,
    I’ll be okay just by her sight.


    The moon looks like a dear friend,
    A far but a near friend,
    Keeping me company, till the darkness end.”

    -©Kulsoom Abid

    This is a poem by me, I hope you like it. Your reviews are whole heartedly welcomed.

    You can also suggest me some topics to write about.

    Thank you for reading.