I have never been comfortable with changes. I am someone who gets extremely attached to things, places and people. I don’t like when people leave or a book ends or when we move to a different place, it makes me feel sad. You can say I am bad at letting go which makes me overthink all the “ifs” and “buts”, and I eventually end up feeling upset and empty sometimes. But what I have seen is every single change in my life has taken me to a better place. Every beautiful book that ended took me to another lovely story, every single friend I lost brought me to some amazing people and the list goes on. Life is unpredictable but hope and acceptance are the most powerful weapons you can keep by your side. It’s like swimming into a flowing river that ends up meeting the ocean, you never know what’s inside the ocean, so you must enjoy every change every experience that the journey to the ocean gives you. Because we are what our experiences make us and of course change is inevitable. Things will keep on changing accept it, prepare yourself and never ever lose hope and your faith in God, because the best is yet to come.
And the 2020 ends. It has been an absolutely crazy year. There was pain, sorrow, achievements, celebrations, everything. I have lost a few most trusted, cherished and loved people. I have experienced the worst betrayal I could imagine. But I picked myself up and I am proud of myself. And as the year ends, I am letting go of all the bad memories and keeping the lessons. I am grateful to those who left and those who stayed. This year was totally sick. We actually realized that nothing is impossible and your confidence and your will power is the most strongest weapon you possess. Many of us have lost many battles this year maybe some of us are still dealing with stuff but this new year is bringing hope for all of us. 2020 taught us to live and enjoy in simplicity. And no matter what has happened or what will happen in the upcoming year, I am proud of all of you, there has been ups and downs, the journey has been tough and experience-giving but we survived it and I hope we all are proud of ourselves as well as each other. I hope and wish the best for each and every one of you. May this year brings positive energies into your lives. All the best everyone and may the fireflies follow you where butterflies won’t. Happy New Year.
Hey, you all already understood what we are going to talk about today. I feel being a girl myself it’s my moral responsibility to tell people the difference between Feminism and Fake Feminism. I have wanted to write about it for so long and now I’m finally doing it.
Feminism started when the World began to understand the need for Gender Equality. So as far as I know, Feminism is all about social, cultural, economical, educational, political and personal equality of women. Which, in simple words mean that women can live and work wherever she wants, dress up however she desires, eat whatever she craves, choose any occupation she dreams of, study whatever subject she likes, etc.
It’s basic, right?
That’s how we (the society) define equality.
If men can wear white jeans, a green shirt, a maroon belt, baby pink hat, eat a cheeseburger, study zoology and earn 25,000 per day then women can do it too.
Now, what’s Fake Feminism?
Well, I would define it as accessing your rights but disrespecting the right of others.
Example: Wearing a neon pink shirt yourself and judging if a guy does the same, saying “ We are girls we can wear that, you are a guy you can’t.”
Excuse me? Really?
Being a girl I strongly discourage such behaviour. Feminism was for “ equality ” if you don’t want to hear what you can and can not do then you have no right to tell someone else the same.
Another example: If a guy opens up it’s not okay because he is a guy and if a girl opens up then it’s okay because she is a girl. And if a guy opposes this then they say “ Oh shut up, you don’t know what we go through we bleed every month, we carry a baby for nine months ” etc. And then you’ll go posting things about feminism.
See, I respect that, okay, but we girls suffer all this doesn’t mean that boys don’t have problems to deal with or they have no right to open up. I’m not an Anti-feminist or a Pro-male-ist. What I’m trying to say is Feminism gives you equality, not the supreme power to oppress others or disrespect their rights.
Being Feminist is not a bad thing, helping women achieve their dreams or gain self-respect, self-confidence is a commendable act. But if you support a girl to be a soldier, fighter pilot, architect etc then support a guy who wants to be a fashion designer, makeup artist and painter too. Equality is what matters, that’s where this started from.
Please recognise the difference and kindly stop doing this, because it hurts me to watch that we are misusing the thing made for our benefit by using it against someone else.
Humanity is above all. Equality is above all. People supporting and being empathetic to each other is above all. And if you don’t get it, then I have nothing to say to you.
If you think I’m wrong then, please correct me. Your views, reviews and suggestions are most welcomed.
I have been reading children books these days, it’s my “back-to-basics” method. Before the age of 12 I never really liked books so I haven’t read many which brought me here, reading stuff I should have read (10 years) before.
I landed over a book called “The Velveteen Rabbit ”
The Velveteen Rabbit is a British children’s book written by Margery Williams and illustrated by William Nicholson. It chronicles the story of a stuffed rabbit’s desire to become real through the love of his owner. The book was first published in 1922.
Image Source: Google Books. Information Source: Wikipedia.
and I read something I couldn’t keep myself from sharing. So in case, you haven’t read this book or you don’t have time to, I am sharing one of the most beautiful things I came across.
Here it is.
‘Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’
‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.
‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’
‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’
‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.
– The Velveteen Rabbit
By Margery Williams Bianco
I’m so in love with this book and I recommend this. So if you have time or you are stressed and need a book to just relax your mind, do try this one.
I was into my routine “late-night-overthinking” when I realized that sometimes I don’t understand why “Racism” is even a thing?
I mean it’s like saying white flowers are beautiful because they are white and purple or blue ones are ugly because they are purple or blue.
At the end of the day, they all are flowers. They all are beautiful. Imagine if the World had only white or yellow flowers… Now imagine the world with only red or purple or blue flowers…? There will be no variety in gardens and bouquets, everything will look the same.
Let’s look at it in this way.
When we make a painting, we colour it the way we want to, we use the colours we think will look good on the object and we go deep down into our creativity and imagination to come up with what we desire for. And when we are done, we don’t care what others think, we love our painting because it is ours it is purely our creativity.
Now, think of us (the people in the world) as paintings and think of God as an artist. He painted us this way, he painted the flowers this way because he wanted to. It’s his creativity and he loves us he is proud of us for the way we are. In the same way, we would have been of something we created.
Purple and white flowers look more beautiful together than separately, whether in the Garden (normal life, local places and society) or in the Bouquet (high ranking jobs, prestigious sectors and in the decision making bodies). Understand that. Because we won’t like the future generations to think we were stupid to not understand such simple things, because the world will always be a colourful place, whether you like it or not because the Creator likes it this way.
I would love to know your views, reviews and suggestions on the topic and my blog too. Feel free to comment below.
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