The one you can be yourself with, without the fear of being judged, The one you can travel miles with, even after knowing the roads will be rough.
Not only the one you remember when you are happy, But the one you go to when you are sad, The one that’s ready to love you, even when you are bad.
When the world is full of lies, The one with a truthful and friendly smiles. The one you can trust to never leave your hand, Even if you are miles apart, you know by your side they will forever stand. The one who wipes you tears and console your heart when it’s tired, That person who is ready to be with you without ever being retired.
You know when you messed up All night they will stay up Until your pain goes down, They are all ears for you When you want to pour your secrets From dusk till dawn.
The one who is your comfort and the one who is your peace, The one you can be ugly around and the one that can help you sleep.
The one that you never run from But the one you always run to, They say, ” Home can be a person too” And for me, that person is You.
Hey, you all already understood what we are going to talk about today. I feel being a girl myself it’s my moral responsibility to tell people the difference between Feminism and Fake Feminism. I have wanted to write about it for so long and now I’m finally doing it.
Feminism started when the World began to understand the need for Gender Equality. So as far as I know, Feminism is all about social, cultural, economical, educational, political and personal equality of women. Which, in simple words mean that women can live and work wherever she wants, dress up however she desires, eat whatever she craves, choose any occupation she dreams of, study whatever subject she likes, etc.
It’s basic, right?
That’s how we (the society) define equality.
If men can wear white jeans, a green shirt, a maroon belt, baby pink hat, eat a cheeseburger, study zoology and earn 25,000 per day then women can do it too.
Now, what’s Fake Feminism?
Well, I would define it as accessing your rights but disrespecting the right of others.
Example: Wearing a neon pink shirt yourself and judging if a guy does the same, saying “ We are girls we can wear that, you are a guy you can’t.”
Excuse me? Really?
Being a girl I strongly discourage such behaviour. Feminism was for “ equality ” if you don’t want to hear what you can and can not do then you have no right to tell someone else the same.
Another example: If a guy opens up it’s not okay because he is a guy and if a girl opens up then it’s okay because she is a girl. And if a guy opposes this then they say “ Oh shut up, you don’t know what we go through we bleed every month, we carry a baby for nine months ” etc. And then you’ll go posting things about feminism.
See, I respect that, okay, but we girls suffer all this doesn’t mean that boys don’t have problems to deal with or they have no right to open up. I’m not an Anti-feminist or a Pro-male-ist. What I’m trying to say is Feminism gives you equality, not the supreme power to oppress others or disrespect their rights.
Being Feminist is not a bad thing, helping women achieve their dreams or gain self-respect, self-confidence is a commendable act. But if you support a girl to be a soldier, fighter pilot, architect etc then support a guy who wants to be a fashion designer, makeup artist and painter too. Equality is what matters, that’s where this started from.
Please recognise the difference and kindly stop doing this, because it hurts me to watch that we are misusing the thing made for our benefit by using it against someone else.
Humanity is above all. Equality is above all. People supporting and being empathetic to each other is above all. And if you don’t get it, then I have nothing to say to you.
If you think I’m wrong then, please correct me. Your views, reviews and suggestions are most welcomed.
I have been reading children books these days, it’s my “back-to-basics” method. Before the age of 12 I never really liked books so I haven’t read many which brought me here, reading stuff I should have read (10 years) before.
I landed over a book called “The Velveteen Rabbit ”
The Velveteen Rabbit is a British children’s book written by Margery Williams and illustrated by William Nicholson. It chronicles the story of a stuffed rabbit’s desire to become real through the love of his owner. The book was first published in 1922.
Image Source: Google Books. Information Source: Wikipedia.
and I read something I couldn’t keep myself from sharing. So in case, you haven’t read this book or you don’t have time to, I am sharing one of the most beautiful things I came across.
Here it is.
‘Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’
‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.
‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’
‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’
‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.
– The Velveteen Rabbit
By Margery Williams Bianco
I’m so in love with this book and I recommend this. So if you have time or you are stressed and need a book to just relax your mind, do try this one.
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