I have never been comfortable with changes. I am someone who gets extremely attached to things, places and people. I don’t like when people leave or a book ends or when we move to a different place, it makes me feel sad. You can say I am bad at letting go which makes me overthink all the “ifs” and “buts”, and I eventually end up feeling upset and empty sometimes. But what I have seen is every single change in my life has taken me to a better place. Every beautiful book that ended took me to another lovely story, every single friend I lost brought me to some amazing people and the list goes on. Life is unpredictable but hope and acceptance are the most powerful weapons you can keep by your side. It’s like swimming into a flowing river that ends up meeting the ocean, you never know what’s inside the ocean, so you must enjoy every change every experience that the journey to the ocean gives you. Because we are what our experiences make us and of course change is inevitable. Things will keep on changing accept it, prepare yourself and never ever lose hope and your faith in God, because the best is yet to come.
Hey, you all already understood what we are going to talk about today. I feel being a girl myself it’s my moral responsibility to tell people the difference between Feminism and Fake Feminism. I have wanted to write about it for so long and now I’m finally doing it.
Feminism started when the World began to understand the need for Gender Equality. So as far as I know, Feminism is all about social, cultural, economical, educational, political and personal equality of women. Which, in simple words mean that women can live and work wherever she wants, dress up however she desires, eat whatever she craves, choose any occupation she dreams of, study whatever subject she likes, etc.
It’s basic, right?
That’s how we (the society) define equality.
If men can wear white jeans, a green shirt, a maroon belt, baby pink hat, eat a cheeseburger, study zoology and earn 25,000 per day then women can do it too.
Now, what’s Fake Feminism?
Well, I would define it as accessing your rights but disrespecting the right of others.
Example: Wearing a neon pink shirt yourself and judging if a guy does the same, saying “ We are girls we can wear that, you are a guy you can’t.”
Excuse me? Really?
Being a girl I strongly discourage such behaviour. Feminism was for “ equality ” if you don’t want to hear what you can and can not do then you have no right to tell someone else the same.
Another example: If a guy opens up it’s not okay because he is a guy and if a girl opens up then it’s okay because she is a girl. And if a guy opposes this then they say “ Oh shut up, you don’t know what we go through we bleed every month, we carry a baby for nine months ” etc. And then you’ll go posting things about feminism.
See, I respect that, okay, but we girls suffer all this doesn’t mean that boys don’t have problems to deal with or they have no right to open up. I’m not an Anti-feminist or a Pro-male-ist. What I’m trying to say is Feminism gives you equality, not the supreme power to oppress others or disrespect their rights.
Being Feminist is not a bad thing, helping women achieve their dreams or gain self-respect, self-confidence is a commendable act. But if you support a girl to be a soldier, fighter pilot, architect etc then support a guy who wants to be a fashion designer, makeup artist and painter too. Equality is what matters, that’s where this started from.
Please recognise the difference and kindly stop doing this, because it hurts me to watch that we are misusing the thing made for our benefit by using it against someone else.
Humanity is above all. Equality is above all. People supporting and being empathetic to each other is above all. And if you don’t get it, then I have nothing to say to you.
If you think I’m wrong then, please correct me. Your views, reviews and suggestions are most welcomed.
Giving up is like running away from your problems. People say give up if you can’t get what you want and try something else. But I say never give up.
Don’t listen to your brain because it will always reason with you. It will always make you doubt yourself with tons of “what if”, “but”, “maybe” etc.
Just ask your heart this simple question, “how much this matters to me? ” or you can try “how much do I love this? ”
It can be anything. It can be a person, it can be a hobby you want to pursue as a career, it can be any goal you want to achieve, it can be a dream you want to fulfil, it can literally be anything.
Your heart will give you the true and unbiased answer of what you really want to do. And if your heart says “it matters to me alot” or “I love it so much”. Then my dear friend I request you not to give up.
I won’t lie to you, it will be extremely difficult and there will be times when you will doubt your decision and sometimes you will think that people were right and you’ll consider giving up. And trust me at that time giving up will be the easiest and safest option. But please don’t.
We have one life. We live only once. And everything, every single thing we truly love is worth the hard work, is worth trying.
You will have to deal with millions of “maybe this is not the right time”, “maybe this is not the right place” and “what will people think about me”.
So here’s a friendly reminder, you are the one who is going to decide the right time and the right place. I do believe in God and I believe God always helps the people who help themselves. Write your own story, believe in your aim, in yourself and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
And “people” will say whatever they want to say. Trust me it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves. Everyone has to face critics in their journey. Use them as your motivation. Just remember that after quitting because of “what will people say/think about me” , one day when you will be regretting this whole decision making process and the outcome, those “people” will be nowhere to console you. All you will ever hear them say will be “ you shouldn’t have given up if you loved it so much”.
We are humans, we are hypocrites don’t listen to us. Listen to your inner voice and your heart. We will make you think you are a fool trying to fulfil your dreams but never listen to us. Because all we want is to pull you down to where we are and make you like ourselves, so do yourself a favour and don’t listen to us.
If you are a bird or a fish and you listen to a giraffe or a plant, then just imagine what you’ll end up doing. Or let’s see it this way, if you are birds and are of same breed but u have the ability to fly slightly higher than the others but you listen to them and hence fly at the same level as them. You are clearly doing injustice to yourself.
So I request you, don’t give up . We live once. Let’s spend it doing what makes us happy.
Think about it. Your view, reviews, suggestions and criticisms are most welcomed. Feel free to share it with someone you know needs this right now. Let’s tell each other that not all humans are bad and we can do good things too, we can support and motivate too.
I was into my routine “late-night-overthinking” when I realized that sometimes I don’t understand why “Racism” is even a thing?
I mean it’s like saying white flowers are beautiful because they are white and purple or blue ones are ugly because they are purple or blue.
At the end of the day, they all are flowers. They all are beautiful. Imagine if the World had only white or yellow flowers… Now imagine the world with only red or purple or blue flowers…? There will be no variety in gardens and bouquets, everything will look the same.
Let’s look at it in this way.
When we make a painting, we colour it the way we want to, we use the colours we think will look good on the object and we go deep down into our creativity and imagination to come up with what we desire for. And when we are done, we don’t care what others think, we love our painting because it is ours it is purely our creativity.
Now, think of us (the people in the world) as paintings and think of God as an artist. He painted us this way, he painted the flowers this way because he wanted to. It’s his creativity and he loves us he is proud of us for the way we are. In the same way, we would have been of something we created.
Purple and white flowers look more beautiful together than separately, whether in the Garden (normal life, local places and society) or in the Bouquet (high ranking jobs, prestigious sectors and in the decision making bodies). Understand that. Because we won’t like the future generations to think we were stupid to not understand such simple things, because the world will always be a colourful place, whether you like it or not because the Creator likes it this way.
I would love to know your views, reviews and suggestions on the topic and my blog too. Feel free to comment below.
Hey everybody, I know I haven’t posted in a while but there is something I want to talk about. Let’s think about the question in the heading. What makes your country really happy?
Country is made by it’s people and we are the people, so tell me, do we like hate speeches? Do we like discrimination? Do we like racism, casteism and sexism? Do we like how people spread hate messages about a particular religion? Do we like the conflict between religions? Do we like civil wars and mass murders and mob lynchings?
I don’t know about you but I don’t like any of this. I’m an Indian, and I’m proud of my religion, I’m proud of my country and I love my culture. And I’m hundred percent sure that each and every one of you feel the same way.
We are a secular nation and growing up I have always read about how we Indians, despite being of different religions and castes, have lived together with harmony and brotherhood for centuries.
The thing is, I received a post today in which there was a Mughal Painting depicting how the Mughal ruler Aurangzeb had demolished the ” Krishan janmabhoomi ” Temple in Mathura.
Here are few pictures of the post and the comments below. Just read them and tell me how you feel about it.
Source : @im_sanatani Instagram Page
So how do you feel now? Now please tell me was this a kind of message to be spead among today’s youth? Such infuriating forwards release Epinephrine (C9H13NO3) also known as Adrenaline in the body. This chemical makes us feel angry or we can say “boil our blood”.
And we all know what impact these things can leave on the mind of others. I’m so heartbroken to see that educated people forward such posts and do not report it.
On the 2nd page of this blog I’m sharing few links, please go there and have a look at few stories that show the secularism, brotherhood and harmony in our country. I really appreciate those web pages to write such stories.
I’m not defending Aurangzeb or any other ruler. But the fact is, in history every ruler that came to India build multiple religious worship places according to his religious beliefs as they never knew they were going to be defeated by some other ruler and will have to leave the place. Even as I have read on a website even the hindi rulers of Vijayanagara empire have demolished the mosques. So what should we do now? Go and destroy everything? The world will be a blind place if we go by the rule of “an eye for an eye”.
We can’t change the past, and I understand the past wasn’t so good, but tell me, is it right to let go of whatsoever good things we have right now? Is it right to fight your Muslim friends because many centuries a go some stupid ruler demolished a temple? Or is it right to fight with your Hindu friends because of the same reason?
Please I request you all, I understand that making people fall for negative things is much easier than making them aware of the positive side, but please don’t spread such things please don’t spread hate.
Humanity is the biggest religion. Please don’t forget the “sharing is caring” and “a friend in need is a friend indeed” lessons we learnt as children.
Humanity, secularism, brotherhood, peace, and love makes our country happy. Moral values make our country happy. Togetherness makes our country happy.
Please let me know what you think about it in the comments below. Your view, reviews, suggestions etc are most welcomed.
I hope you people understand what I’m trying to say.
Today I’m going to open up to you all. While thinking about this post today, I felt how difficult it is to open up or talk to about something. We have this constant thing going on in our head that, “what if people don’t understand”, ” Should I even do this?? ” , “what if I get trolled”, etc.
Asking people to talk about their problems and experiences is easier than doing it. So I can’t ask you all to talk about such things until and unless I do it myself first.
So here I am.
There was a time in my life when things weren’t good. I had shifted to new school, I was not being able to adjust there, I wasn’t scoring well, I was being bullied, I was being called names, and last be not the least got backstabbed by friends, I thought I would have forever. And all these things were going on at the same time.
I hated my life. I hated school. I hated everyone and everything. And the worst part was I had no one to share all these things with. I had no one to talk and trust to. I was scared, lonely, unsure, fragile and depressed. I used to cry at nights and go back to “school” in the mornings.
And at a point things became so worse that I thought about killing myself. Yes I did. I was trying to look as if nothing bad has ever happened to me for the sake of my family. I didn’t want to see them hurt and suffer because of me. I thought if I will end myself, everything will become perfect again. My parents and my sibling will carry on with their lives and I’ll take all my problems and troubles with me.
But I loved my family too much to be unsure about it. So I just observed them one day, to see if they will really be happy after I’ll be gone. I realised, they won’t. I, as if for the first time, noticed how much they love me. Everything they talk or plan about includes me. I was heartbroken. And I thought I will tolerate all those things for them. I didn’t want to hurt them no matter what.
Few days passed, and I continued my routine. But one day I got so bullied in school that it was a last nail in the coffin for me. I tried to control my tears and did something I never thought I was capable of. I went to my class teacher and made her promise that whatever I’m going to tell her will stay between the two of us and won’t go to my parents or any other higher authorities.
I was taking a huge risk by telling her those things but I had to either ask for help or kill myself. And no matter what I was definitely not ready to give up and let those stupid people win. I was scared while talking to her but she told me she won’t be able to help me if I didn’t be honest with her. So I spoke everything like a trained parrot. I told her how I’m getting bullied and how I thought to end my life. And after, what seemed like eternity, I felt good. I felt relived that I finally spoke up.
We together decided to take one step at a time. Firstly I improved my grades and participated in the competitions and events. I strengthened my academic record first. And as soon as I started focusing on myself more than my problems, things automatically started to fall in place.
Due to the competitions, I became more confident and outspoken than I was. Eventually the bullying stopped. I made few new and true friends. Sometimes people used to call me names too but I was so satisfied with myself that it stopped bothering me. But whenever it did, I took stand for myself.
Kulsoomified 